Family Is All About Communication And Compromise!!

How often does a family communicate?  Do one talk only about his or her everyday experiences and  couldn't care less about each other?  Or just simple hey what’s up? I’m ok.. end of discussion..  or worst, none?

Many families that I know and do believed are experiencing lack of communication, although they all live together but they don’t often talk to each other.

My oh my! Under one same roof and no communication at all? How does this happen?  Are they invisible to each other, or they just don’t know how to speak up and open a communication?  For a kid having this family is not healthy for him or her as a matter of fact. I myself have been through just communication breakdown during my childhood years but thank god that I found my path and make things work out with the help of close relatives and friends to guide me alone the way.

It is often that one become hesitant to talk about his or her problems for example in school; when he or she has a failing grade and the parents are needed to talk to the principal for their child’s performance.  Teenagers however, may no longer ask for the parent’s attention and rather just seek it to their friends. One may be lucky enough to have good friends around them or badly as he or she could be involved with alcohol, tobacco and/or illegal drugs. 

There is a saying in Chinese that "Should one learn to be influence by the wrong party, it does not take a foreign land to do so!"

It is important to keep the lines of communication open in a family. I know that it is easier said than done but we all take things for granted like "Hei you are not talking to me why should I and so forth" Man if you have such mentality please all I can say is that upon your regrets its going to be too late and pointless to weep over a spilled milk for that matters. Put down your ego and be the smart one to initiate it! Don't assume just do it! Mistakes are made and its normal as long as you don't give up should one way failed and never ever give the excuse that "Oh...I do not have the time and so!" If that is the case then you are setting some other objectives in life which is more important than your family itself. 

Start a good communication on the dining table.  Eating dinner together is the best time and place to communicate and reconnect to each other.  You can talk about each others’ favorite part or biggest challenge of the day.  Or maybe you can make it something playful like “If you would be any super hero, what would you be and why? “.. which could only work for kids below 12 ( imagine if you asked that to your teenage kid ).  And when it comes to teenagers, it will be a little bit hard for you to talk to them especially on the boyfriend/girlfriend issue.  But just let them know that you’re always there to listen and ready to help them on their problems.

Good communication skills in a family may build self-esteem, because a child learns of his capabilities from what his family tells him of himself.  But not in a way that you’ll give comments like “you’re good”, “you’re wonderful”, “you’re perfect”.. and don’t say he’s perfect because he might just answer you back like “isn’t it, nobody’s perfect?” ( children are much intelligent these days ).  Rather, be a nurturing parent, which build self confidence and point out his skills and strengths that will make him aware of his worth.

Your relationship with your family will be stronger if you start opening a good communication today and best yet you might not even realize it at that point. Once you do I guarantee that you will be a Happy Go Lucky Kinda Chap like me! :) 

So Don't Wait....Just Communicate! @_@