Misunderstanding.....Yet Can't Talk About It @_@

When a person feels that he/she has a problem with a long-term friend or friendship, why does that individual or both not simply sit down and work it out? Why does one prefer to let the friendship die instead of trying to repair it? How can one just turn back after so many years? It seems to me that some people only remain friends as long as everything is picture perfect. As soon as a problem arises, they cut and run. Why are we such cowards? The beauty in life itself which includes friendship are the ups and downs and not just picture perfect after all Life Is Not Suppose To Be Boring..... 

Like any other relationship, friendships are rarely perfect cause "Nothing Is Perfect!". Friends make seamless accommodations to one another all the time. But when larger issues or conflicts arise, they can suddenly create a wedge between two people. Perhaps, it's something one friend said or did that hurt the other person, or something she didn't say or do when she should have. Given the many myths associated with female friendships, it's easy to hold close friends up to unrealistic standards, and to feel disappointed or betrayed when they don't measure up.

 

So why don't friends just talk about it? 

• Some are afraid of dealing with a conflict or disagreement, even at the risk of losing a good friend.

• Some don't know how to broach an uncomfortable subject because they lack self-confidence or experience resolving friendship problems. It may feel easier to avoid the problem and ditch the friend.

• Some decide, rightly or wrongly, that a friendship is irreparable. Perhaps, words were exchanged that were so hurtful that they can't be taken back or undone. Or perhaps, things were building up for some time and this was the proverbial last straw.

 

More times than not, problems between friends can be resolved with open and honest communication. Think about it: There is usually much more to be gained than lost by trying to resolve a misunderstanding and if it doesn't work out, you are no worse off for trying.

The deterioration of a longtime friendship is extraordinarily painful---especially, when someone is dumped, ignored and the decision has been so one-sided.

Misunderstandings are common among friends---a better measure of a friendship is how often these occur and how we get over them. Two friends need to be able to communicate to get over the inevitable rough spots. Having a long shared history ordinarily provides a foundation of trust that makes it easier to clear up relatively minor misunderstandings. This can be more difficult when someone is very upset and has recently experienced trauma or loss, as your friend did when a love ones was diagnosed with a potentially fatal disease.

 

One should have no reason to feel guilty or ashamed. Although this doesn't make the hurt any less painful, situations like this are not unusual and you need to reach closure on your own by continuing to build other solid friendships.

AFTER ALL.....LIFE STILL GOES ON BE OR BE IT WITHOUT IT! @_@